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Homily 26 December 2004
By Fr. Hathaway FSSP
Mater Dei Latin Mass Community

Sunday within the Octave of Christmas
On Love is not Boastful

We return now to the signs of divine love working in the soul.  We resume with St. Paul’s phrase,  “Love is not boastful” which St. Alphonsus Ligouri (The Practice of the Love of Jesus Christ) explains, “Those who love Jesus Christ are not vain about their own self worth, but humble themselves, and are glad to be humbled by others.” 

St. Alphonsus (declared Doctor of Moral Theology i.e., he knows what he is talking about) says, the proud man is like a balloon filled up with air.  The balloon seems great to itself but as its greatness is all air so when it is popped, and the air escapes, no value remains.   In contrast, those who love God are not puffed up about themselves; they know God is the source of their greatness; they know that of themselves they have only air i.e., nothingness and sin. 

Indeed, St. Alphonsus says those who are truly humble know they are simply unworthy of divine favors and when they receive them become eager to humble themselves the more.

And so we have the secret to being humble: we must acknowledge and recall our lowliness.  St. Alphonsus says that when God multiplies his favors so we must multiply our humility.  After receiving a special grace, St. Teresa of Avila would recall all her past ingratitude so that she would not think too highly of herself.

St. Margaret of Cortona was the same way.  One day, our blessed Lord visited her with a great consolation.  She said to Him, “What is this? Hast Thou forgotten what I was?  How is it that Thou repay my insults with such delicate attention?”   Our Blessed Savior told her, “My daughter, when a soul loves Me and repents of all her past offenses I remember them no more.”

This also the prophet Ezekiel reported, “If the wicked turn from all their sin… none of their offenses shall be remembered.”  (Ez 18:21)

The humble know their lowliness and wish to be placed last of all.  St. Teresa often quipped, “Don’t think that you have made progress in perfection until you consider yourself the worst of all and unless you desire to be placed last.”  Such is the saint’s desire and sincere conviction.

When Ven. Fr. John of Avila lay dying on his death bed a priest friend spoke many consoling words to him.  Fr. Avila, however, finally interrupted him saying, “My dear Father, please pray for my soul as one who is going to the gallows; for that is what I deserve.”  So the saints, St. Alphonsus relates, think from life to death.  He says further that we must pattern ourselves after them if we wish to be saved and remain in God’s grace until death… “putting all trust in God.” 

St. Alphonsus says, however, that humility is more than having a lowly opinion of self and thinking upon our wretchedness.  Following Thomas a Kempis, St. Alphonsus says the truly humble man wishes also to be looked down upon by others.  

He says that those who call themselves the greatest sinners in the world and then get angry when their neighbor insults them clearly have humility only on their tongue, not in their heart.  St. Thomas Aquinas says the person who resents being slighted is a long way from perfection… even though he should work miracles.

St. Alphonsus recounts that the blessed Mother once sent St. Ignatius Loyola to instruct St. Mary Magdalen de Pazzi. His first lesson began: “Humility is the enjoyment of whatever leads us to despise ourselves.”  It is hard to enjoy being humbled; but St. Alphonsus says we must at least enjoy them in the spirit… if not in the flesh.

Nor let us forget that humility is the image of the Crucified.   St. Alphonsus says our Savior loved to be scorned if only to more clearly reveal His great love for us.  This Blessed Savior wants His crucified image, an image of agony and shame, over our altars - not an image of His glory - so that we might always have the image of humility before us and a pattern to follow. 

Thus the saints desired suffering as a joy; St. John of the Cross sums it, “Lord, to suffer and to be despised for Thee.”  

And being despised is the true test of humility.  St. Francis de Sales says true humility and solid virtue are proved in the furnace of infamy. 

The Imitation of Christ states that having a horror of humiliation is a sign that one is not dead to the world,  that one’s humility is false, and that God is not kept enough in mind.

But my Savior has endured so much for me; blows, spit, false accusations, taunts, blasphemous words, stripping of garments and nails; shall not I endure a few ill words? 

St. Alphonsus finds it surprising - even scandalous - that any frequent communicant would resent every scornful word directed his way.  He says the good of the Church is advanced when scornful words are answered gently to appease the offender; or when the offender is not answered but simply left with a placid expression, void of any bitterness or rage. 

Considering more advanced perfection, St. Jane de Chantal used to say, when a truly humble soul is humiliated, she humbles themself more.  Why?  Because she know she deserve more. 

Finally, corrections by others are the best way to advance in humility.  When humble people are corrected they grieve for their error.  In contrast, proud people grieve too; but they grieve because their fault has been discovered.  These become troubled and seek to ruin their corrector.

False accusations are a further test in humility.  St. Philip Neri says he who really desires sainthood will never excuse himself even if the accusation be false.  The one exception to this rule, says St. Alphonsus, is when self-defense is necessary to avoid scandal.

St. Alphonsus says great rewards are laid up for those who suffer false accusations patiently.  These show a holy disdain for human opinion and great love of God’s opinion.  We read of these humble men is St. Matthew’s gospel, “Blessed are you when men revile you… speak all that is evil against you, untruly, for My sake… for your reward is very great in heaven.”  (Mt 5:11)

The next sign of divine love working in the soul is, “love is not arrogant” which St. Alphonsus explains, “Those who love Jesus Christ aspire to nothing but Jesus Christ.”  This will be our topic next time.

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