In the normal course of God's providence every family has a father. This
father is the ruler of the home* to rule and govern those God has placed
under his care so that all get to heaven.
The father is another Noah who keeps his family safe from the world's flood
of sin; another Moses who guides his people through a parched earth to a
Promised land; another king David who establishes his household kingdom under
the dominion of the one true God.
We are all aware of the feminist attack against the traditional family
structure. We will not dwell on that here. Rather, today we will explain
that every family needs a father and this father must be the prince and priest
of his home. This is the mind of God.
The father is prince because Adam came first then Eve. In reference to
this, St. Paul writes in Ephesians, "Let women be subject to their husbands,
as to the Lord."(5:22) He is priest because God intends him to lead his
family in worship within the home. For this reason St. Paul continues in
Ephesians, "Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the Church and delivered
Himself up for it." (5:25) The principle act of the priest is sacrifice
and fathers are called to sacrifice for the family.
Fathers, as kingly heads of family and priests of the home, have a high
calling before Almighty God. They have been given a great trust: immortal
souls to be governed and sanctified for the kingdom of God.
By natural law, once a man has become a father he is obligated to feed,
clothe, shelter, educate that child until the child is able to live independently.
By divine decree, a father must train his child in the love of God and the
practice of virtue. And, indeed, it is this area of fatherhood that is the
most important and, perhaps, the most neglected today.
Growing up it was my experience that parents were more concerned to prepare
their children for a good career than eternal life. But this is not a new
problem. St. John Chrysostom complained of this 1600 years ago,
"Isn't absurd to send children to jobs and to school and to do all you
can to prepare them for these yet not to 'bring them up in the chastening
and admonition of the Lord (Eph.6:4)?' Discipline is needed, not eloquence;
character, not cleverness, deeds, not words. These gain a man a kingdom."
The ultimate priority of a father should be to raise his children for heaven.
This is the purpose of life for which all men have been created. And this
is the reason God has made fathers - and they will fulfill their vocation
in the measure that they resemble the heavenly Father Who with the Son and
the Holy Ghost sanctifies mankind.
So how may a father fulfill his priestly role to sanctify the home? Here
are some suggestions which assume the absence of moral pollution in that
home.
1) Fathers, lead your family in prayer, especially by the daily recitation
of Our Lady's Rosary. There is no more ready access to grace than prayer.
Nor is there a better family prayer than the Rosary. Here we pray for God's
will and pray for Mary's intercession; here we recount the wonderful mysteries
of redemption and inculcate into our children a deepening knowledge of salvation
history.
2) Fathers, consecrate your homes to the Sacred Heart of Jesus and frequently
renew this consecration.
Make this formal act of establishing your home under the reign of Christ
the eternal King. Set the boundaries between the world and a refuge; a place
where God and godliness might be found.
3) Fathers, begin the practice of blessing your children before they go
to bed, or off to college, or off to some adventure; or, whenever they ask
for it. It is an ancient practice for the father to bless his children. We
read in Ecclus. 3:11, "The father's blessing establishes the house of his
children." A simple formula as "May God bless and keep you" could be used
while placing your hands on your child's head; that will be 10 seconds well
spent.
4) Initiate meals prayers before AND after eating.
5) Take the family to daily Mass when that can be done. Come to adoration
frequently.
6) Erect a holy water font near the doorway most used and use it every
day: in the morning, as if putting on the armor of God; in the evening,
in thanksgiving to God that He has preserved you from the world's pollution.
If fathers do this, so will their children; if fathers do not, the children
will have no example to follow.
7) Most important, be a good example. Realize your children will mirror
your character, your words, your example; both the good points but faults
as well. This is a rule of nature: children not only look like but even (after
they have grown some) mirror certain mannerisms of their parents. Children
are clay vessels on a potter's wheel given you by God - form them well. Provide
a good example, let them see you go to confession, hear you talk of holy
things, i.e. the lives of the saints, edification at virtue, disappointment
at sin; if you gossip, they will gossip; if you only find fault, they, too,
will analyze the defects of their neighbor. Rather, let them hear you apologize
should you offend; see you pray on your knees for God's grace; hear you
sing a hymn in praise of the good God or listen to music worthy of the same.
A priest I knew used to say often: "you cannot give what you do not have."
How true.
To be a good father a man must be holy or at least striving for the same.
For if he strives for holiness, his children will be imparted with virtue
and strive for the same; and, God willing, on the Last Day both will rejoice
together for all eternity.
It is written about the just man Job, who had ten children, that "he got
up early in the morning to pray for his family." (Job 1:5) Such is the practice
of the just man, the man striving for holiness, the man who is a father!
Would that all fathers realized the greatness of their vocation to be prince
and priest of the home! Would that all fathers could say at the end their
life on earth what St. Paul, "father of the Gentles", said at the conclusion
of his life, "my dissolution is at hand. I have fought the good fight. I
have finished my course, I have kept the faith. As to the rest, there is
laid up for me a crown of justice which God the just judge will render to
me in that day, but not just to me, but to them also that love His coming."
(II Tm 4:7,8)
And what joy every father would feel if his children could say of him at
his passing, what St. Therese said of her parents, "The good Lord gave me
a father and a mother more worthy of heaven than of earth."
Sound too difficult. Without grace yes, indeed impossible. But the gospel
gives us courage.
In today's Gospel, our dear Savior says all power in heaven and on earth
has been given Him; He commissions His disciples to make disciples of all
nations; finally, He assures the Church on earth of His enduring help, "I
am with you all days, even unto the consummation of the world." Where Christ
is, there is salvation. Fathers, to fulfill well your mission: hate sin,
love virtue, avoid the occasions of sin, pray every day, and stay close to
the Church and her sacraments - that is the way to harvest yourself and your
children for heaven.